so i think my relationship is fked, 4 years down the drain:(

[DA_LsVtAk]

so i came back up north to see my gf, i got back on the 28th of dec and am leaving on the 6th or 7th... havent seen her in about a 4-5 months and begged my manager to give me the time off to spend time with my girl, and i got the time.... so i fly out and i get here in 3 hours from houston (wichita falls) and my gf is working, go to see her at work around 9ish to supprise her and she had no clue i was comming in town... shes so excited to see me and starts hugging me and crying and kissing me.. the whole run down, so im like sweet she actually misses me...

15 min later or so she tells me that shes going for a night out with all of her girl friends and she will call me first thing tomorrow morning so we can have breakfeast. so i go to my friends house and pass out.. wake up around 8-9am and call her, no pick up... call again around 11am no pick up, so i think she went to work already.. so i wait till 9pm call... no pick up, 3 days go by and i call her frequently to see whats up and she never picks up...

then i call her from my bros phone and she picks up and i ask her whats the deal? why havent you been picking up? and she goes is this alex? i say yes, and beep she hangs up on me.. now im pissed off and my relationship is fucking screwed.. i have no clue what i did, why shes pissed, or why the fuck she wont pick up the phone....

its the most random thing ever, 4 years ive been with this girl and now she desides to not talk to me after i fly 400 miles to fking see her.. oh well... good things come to a end i guess....


suggestions? i need some advice....

cliffs* i fly 400 miles to see my GF and beg to get 10 days off work, i get the time off and see her and she is ignoring me... no clue what do to do and shit is off the fucking chain,her friends dont even know whats up with her...*

[eSArGhTee4]

man dude thats nuts.. feelings and moods change in a split second, I say just move on..

[Boosted98gsx]

slap that bitch and tell her to learn her respek.

;)

No, confront her IN PERSON and ask her what her deal is.

[Leo]

drop the hoe

[DA_LsVtAk]

yeah man, the killer is i was going to ask her to marry me.. i already have her moms blessing and her dads... and i havent said a word about this to her... and trust me her parents did spill the beans on it either....

[Limeade]

I think they did, the would be a big obvious reason for her freakout.

[AlbaluS]

it might not be something you did... she might be feeling guilty or angry about something she did . but dont give up that easy, it might not be as bad as you think.

[DA_LsVtAk]

I think they did, the would be a big obvious reason for her freakout.


nah she doesnt even live at home... i mean me and her have talked about marrage before, and her mom lives in florida so its not her mom... trust me, they gave me their word they wouldnt tell a soul about this to anyone, but lately shes been ignoring everyones calls even her dad and best friends

[G-drifter]

Hey bro I was with my gf for 5 years and she did the exact same thing, told me I was her soulmate and wanted to get married and everything...Love me more than life itself then just woke up one day and would'nt answer the phone when I called...I was hurt at first then after awhile I decided not to give a fuck and found out there were better women out there.

[Jamiroquai]

Man that has to suck. Sorry dude : /

[DA_LsVtAk]

Man that has to suck. Sorry dude : /




yeah, shes 1/4 japanese... and i think thats one of the many reason why i fell for her... too beautiful to let go... this shit makes me want to throw up

[cute_pali_chick]

i dont think you should stop talking to her

[YesSiR]

damn 3 days.....i would have shown up at the front door that evening setting shit straight, especially after all that trouble, but then again i'm a subborn SOB lol

good luck man don't give up until you feel you should

buy the way The new edit feature rules :thumb:

[DA_LsVtAk]

yeah im on day 4, im going to go to her dads house tonight... hopefully she will be there.. im more worried than pissed, she knows she can come to me if anything ever happens.. im pretty forgiving.. lol...

[arkive43]

i think showing up with out her knowing fucked her game up....im sorry dude but thats what i think....she is seing some one else or something...if she really mised you then why is she avoiding you? makes no sence....:-/

[cute_pali_chick]

i think showing up with out her knowing fucked her game up....im sorry dude but thats what i think....she is seing some one else or something...if she really mised you then why is she avoiding you? makes no sence....:-/

i dont think you should be jumping to conclusions
but then again you are only just sharing what you think

[SugarDaddy]

damn dude... that is jacked up. maybe someone did slip and tell her about you going to ask her. but that is no reason to just hang up on you like that? you need to get her in person and let her know that 4 years deserves some respect and dignity to let you know if it was something you did or is it something she did that has her all messed up right now. gl on that man.

[cute_pali_chick]

yeah im on day 4, im going to go to her dads house tonight... hopefully she will be there.. im more worried than pissed, she knows she can come to me if anything ever happens.. im pretty forgiving.. lol...

i dont think you should do anything until you get her side of the story... better for you and her....if she doesnt want to be with you anymore even after yall talk then im sry about the four years down the drain..:(

[Scr4ppY]

Dont give up? I dont know I would say keep trying but after the whole hanging up in the face thing...was pretty fucked up. I dont know but I wish you the best keep us posted.

[stephenlc]

damn dude thats so sad.

[HoHo]

id break down the chicks door with a knife and hockey mask.

[koalaznbear]

keep us updated mang

[DA_LsVtAk]

just talked to her... her brother is in the hospital.....

[G-drifter]

just talked to her... her brother is in the hospital.....


That sux sorry to hear, accident or illness? Either way follow what you feel in your heart and everything will be okay:thumb:

You have your whole H-I family behind you hoping for the best:rock:

[AlbaluS]

damn that sucks i guess thats what the deal is ... i hope he is alright

[DA_LsVtAk]

yeah.. thanks for the support guys.... ill keep yall posted

[blink]

still doesnt excuse her actions.

[SHANGHAi]

wrd. you still need to talk to her. You got what, less than7 days?

[OoOHUY]

just talked to her... her brother is in the hospital.....



that still wouldnt explain why she dident pick up your calls. Also wouldnt explain how she could pick up the phone on different number then yours. know what im saying? something is up

[infamous_ikon]

so why didnt she tell you from the beggining

thats messed up her not telling you

sorry i hope her bro gets better but she messed up big time

[DA_LsVtAk]

yeah, im kinda confused myself... were going to go talk it over tomorrow hopefully... im goin to eat lunch at her work so we can actually sit down and talk

[HKS_ECLIPSE]

may i ask how old both of you are? cuz she pretty immature if she wont pick up ur calls, cuz ur bro in the hospital. like i know if my lil sis was in the hospital i would want my girl by my side for support. something isnt right about that statement. neways man, good luck with your situation.

[.César.]

just talked to her... her brother is in the hospital.....

Wouldn't this want her to want YOU to be by HER SIDE? :dunno:

*unless you put her brother in the hospital....is there something your not telling us?

oh yeah....this wasn't one of those online girlfriends...was it? :dunno:

Hope everything works out for you dude, if not....come hang out with the H-I homies... we'll get you a good girl :thumb:

[JeffTSi924]

sounds like there is more of a back story

[Page]

ibshecheatedonhimandhesdevastated

[Smashin']

Sounds like she has been mingling since you been gone..... Even if her brother is in the hospital... that is no excuse to be treating you like shit. I would NOT propose, see how things go... make a few more unannounced visits and find out for yourself.... to me though..... sounds like she got busted. Hope it works out for ya.

[i_luvmy_azn]

Sounds like she has been mingling since you been gone..... Even if her brother is in the hospital... that is no excuse to be treating you like shit. I would NOT propose, see how things go... make a few more unannounced visits and find out for yourself.... to me though..... sounds like she got busted. Hope it works out for ya.

:wrd:

[Doug]

If you're younger than 30, just count it as an experience and move on. Long distance relationships rarely last.

[XAoPillz]

i think showing up with out her knowing fucked her game up....im sorry dude but thats what i think....she is seing some one else or something...if she really mised you then why is she avoiding you? makes no sence....:-/
:wrd: sounds like she has someone else on the side. just my 2 cents though

[phast]

I've said it once and I'll say it again


FUCK
DAT
BITCH

that is all.

[Retali8]

hopefully everything works out for you. Always be prepared though...because it really does look like she is hiding something. Just cause you love this girl doesn't mean you have to let her treat you like garbage.

[al]

haven't seen her in 4-5 months and she can't cancel her fucking "Girls Night Out"

FUK
DAT
BITCH

[metalranger33]

happened to me also...she didnt pick up then found out she was cheating on me...fun fun fun....no it wasnt but it was worth it...being apart for a long time kills things...she was messing around on u and when u got there she didnt know what to do

[HondaGirl23]

I don't think that's the reason she's ignoring you. You would think her friends knew about the bro in the hospital..

[DJ_713]

sounds like she's cheating. she was probly with her new guy when she wouldnt answer her calls. thats why she answered your bro's number instead.

[eSArGhTee4]

i say STALK HER!

[SprayedAccord]

worst case scenario is she fucked some dude the night she went out with her friends and is feeling really guilty about it or something. Weird shit dawg.

[Leo]

SHE'S A HOE!!!!1

[kevin79925]

she been banging someone else... sad but true.

[phast]

You should bang one of her friends while you're in town.

[kevin79925]

she been seeing someone else there.. and its getting serious.. you show up.. she like oh shit in her head.. gives the hugs and kisses.. and says ill see you tomorrow im going out with my girls tonight.. when she dam well knows its to see that guy. she tells him my ex came to town he is psycho! so he says ignore him.. and she does... after all .. its been a long time since you seen her... your proly over it. is what she thinks.. and prolly that you been cheatin on her also.. so its all good.. hell move on..

[kevin79925]

yes bang her friend... get some poon out of the trip at least.

[DA_LsVtAk]

yeah, im not going to disclude the possibility that she is or was cheating on me... and were both 19 for whoever was curious before.. but weve been together since we were 14 this july would have been 5 years.... oh well.... most people would say she wanted to try another relationship, but shes the one who comes back to me after i tell her we need to take a break... i dunno feelings are kinda mutual... we'll see how things go

[perfectdude86]

dude that sucks! im so sorry to hear, you need to do more investagatory work: send a friend that she dosnt know to give his number to her see if she calls

[phast]

yeah, im not going to disclude the possibility that she is or was cheating on me... and were both 19 for whoever was curious before.. but weve been together since we were 14 this july would have been 5 years.... oh well.... most people would say she wanted to try another relationship, but shes the one who comes back to me after i tell her we need to take a break... i dunno feelings are kinda mutual... we'll see how things go
A lot of the times, the more you try to push away the more they want to stay. It's kind of like how women are really attracted to azzholes, and then complain about never finding any good guyz.

[tnn]

still very young, let yourself explore other ends of the water.

[Dave C]

that bitch is cheating.. and as said before, you came all the way from houston to see her and she still went out w/ friends. if she still was so in love w/ you she would have cancelled in a heart beat no questions asked and her friends would be cool w/ it of course because she loved you. anyways tell that bitch to eat a dick..

[PornItos]

sorry bro but just move on...

[heyitsryan]

:-/ sorry bro but just move on...

[AWD]

19? That kind of explains the actions a little better. What is the story behind you two (i.e. howd you two meet, why yall live far away, etc)

AWD

[DC]

The tribe has spoken! Chunk da deuce!

[lIl CiViC lIl]

I think it was a sweet notion.... especialy in long distance relationships.... I've done that once and had it done to me once.. It was totaly sweet he drove all night to see me.

But i digress....

For her behavior... well i'ed put my money on the fact that shes messing around... WHy else would she blow you off and be busy with no atempt at an explinantion...


Just from a girls point of view.

[DA_LsVtAk]

19? That kind of explains the actions a little better. What is the story behind you two (i.e. howd you two meet, why yall live far away, etc)

AWD


*deep breath*

i actually kinda fell for her the first day i met her, true i was young and only 14... but it was my first day of school as a freshmen, i just moved back from yokota, japan. and my first class i had that day was P.E, the teacher introduced me to everyone and she actually stood out and asked me to sit with her and her friends... i was kinda siked out and i said yes and actually introduced myself and started talking... we were on block schedule and i would actually look forward to seeing her, so after about 2-3 weeks we went out on our first date, went out for a while and thats basicly how it went for the first two years... then we broke up because of communication problems my JR year and decided to get back together for prom our first time, and things worked out and went back out again..


2 months later my dad got retirement orders from the airforce and we had to go our seperate ways... the only time ive actually cried for anyone was the last night i saw her... we stayed in contact everynight, phone calls, webcam convo... yada yada yada.. so i move down to houston august of 04 and i go back the first time to see her in dec.. spent about 2 weeks in jan 05 with her at her house and it was the best time ive spent on vacation,

sry guys laptop is about to die ill finish the second half later..


-alex

[Retali8]

damn...Thats like a fake ass version of the notebook. jk

Seriously, that could be a movie and I actually got a tear from reading the above. Good luck!

[G-drifter]

19, chunk it and bounce:)

[eN_2_Oh]

i say like some others were saying, try to catch her in person and talk to her face to face, and if she blows you off or that dont work. jus move on shes obviously not interested anymore...most likely does have someone else shes been seeing

sucks to here bro. good luck on your next move

[accordvtec]

sucks to hear man...

[91SEE-ARE-EX-Si]

If i where u, i would keep a eye on her, find out where she is going, if she really is going to her girl friends. Is she is, koo, if not u found a problem. Just be calm about it. Or u can just get u a friend who's a girl and is hot, and be at the same place at the same time and walk infront of her, and be like "ohhhhh hey, how u been, meet my g/f ....jennifer... well it was great seeing u again, later. BET SHE WILL CALL U.

[93Integra]

Dam Alex Im sorry to hear that bro. What she did made absolutely no sense to me at all. She was all happy to see you and then its like I dont ever want to hear from you again...wtf. Like others have said Id try to talk to her face to face first. After that dude I dunno.

[jnguyen26]

girls are complicated. just find one that appreciates you

[Din]

if the bitch wanna go let the bitch go

[DA_LsVtAk]

*deep breath*

i actually kinda fell for her the first day i met her, true i was young and only 14... but it was my first day of school as a freshmen, i just moved back from yokota, japan. and my first class i had that day was P.E, the teacher introduced me to everyone and she actually stood out and asked me to sit with her and her friends... i was kinda siked out and i said yes and actually introduced myself and started talking... we were on block schedule and i would actually look forward to seeing her, so after about 2-3 weeks we went out on our first date, went out for a while and thats basicly how it went for the first two years... then we broke up because of communication problems my JR year and decided to get back together for prom our first time, and things worked out and went back out again..


2 months later my dad got retirement orders from the airforce and we had to go our seperate ways... the only time ive actually cried for anyone was the last night i saw her... we stayed in contact everynight, phone calls, webcam convo... yada yada yada.. so i move down to houston august of 04 and i go back the first time to see her in dec.. spent about 2 weeks in jan 05 with her at her house and it was the best time ive spent on vacation,

sry guys laptop is about to die ill finish the second half later..


-alex


2nd half,

so hurricane rita comes through, and i told my dad i wanted to head out the day before it hit just to get a small little vacation... i knew it wasnt going to hit or be a big impact so he let me go... got me some free tickets courtisy of continental and i got out on one of the last flights to dallas... get to dallas and hop a flight to wichita, and she comes to pick me up from the airport... she runs up to me and hugs me and yada and i find out she moved out from home because of an argument she had with her dad... she goes to work and i talk to her dad and he tells me things with her have been going wierd since i left and he really thinks i should consider mairrage after i join the airforce, i said ill think about it and i got her to move back in with her pops and reconsile.. i leave 3 days later back home to houston, keep in touch with her and keep regular contact... phone calls every other night and talking on aim...

so now its about december and i talk to her mom on the phone and actually ask her what she thought of me marrying her daughter.. she is all for it and i get her dads blessing, i wasnt going to buy the ring untill i got here and since all this new shit has come up im seriously doubting myself with her in the long run.... 4 years of a healthy relationship to end like this is truely sad.... hopefully its salvagable but ive been hearing stories of her partying alot and drinking almost every other night... also her bro in the hospital and work drama are seriously hurting this more than i could have anticipated


i really dont want to go on with my life and forget about her, i love her too much but i dunno things are getting wierd... but hearing her say she loves me makes me forget it all

[blink]

bro in hospital + long distance relationship + alcohol = Giggity Giggity for some other dude :-/

[SAR05]

***takes deep breath***

I think (from what you have written) is you should stick around and have a heart to heart to with her. I THINK you whould tell her you where planning on proposing, and see her reaction.

Everyone here may be completly off and you could be getting yourself worked up for nothing. I am willing to bet she found out about the engagement some way or the other and freaked out. Being only 19, probably never dated anyone else besides you, it is understandable that she would have flipped.

Even if everything works out ok, and it ends up she was NOT cheating on you I would STILL call off the proposal because of the reason I gave above. You both need to explore a little. And unless you plan on moving with her, or moving her down here to Houston, you shouldn't stay together.

OF course you 'love' her. Of course you dont want to forget her and move on. For God's sake you guys have been together for almost five years, and probably never been with anyone else. I hate to be the burden of bad news, but I think getting married to her would be the worse decision ever right now.

NOW...IF she IS cheating. It is totally your call buddy. You cant ask ANYONE what you should do on that. If you ask me I could give a SHIT what excuse she gives...cheating is cheating, and IMO there is NO excuse. Then again, you are a completley different person and may choose to handle it in another way.

Either way, cheating or not, I think you two should call it off and date other people for awhile.:-/ I may be a total stranger but I am a girl and oddly enough I have been in this EXACT situation before. Me being your girl (I was not cheating btw):hs:

Good luck with your decisions...and hers none the less.

[SAR05]

http://www.houston-imports.com/forums/showthread.php?t=255668
Its long, but read this thread. It may help you realize things aren't always what they seems. ;)This is a true story btw!

[DA_LsVtAk]

http://www.houston-imports.com/forums/showthread.php?t=255668
Its long, but read this thread. It may help you realize things aren't always what they seems. ;)This is a true story btw!



wow......i really dunno.... so many things crossing my mind right now, i really doubt she is cheating on me... we have never in 4 years been in this kind of situation... its kinda hard to say what the deal is.. i think we just need some space to let things cool down and if it doesnt work out then we go our seperate ways, but if she is cheating i feel so hurt because i have NEVER talked to another girl without her permision as far as anything goes.. sure as friends but i would never even put a question like that in her mind.....

[SAR05]

wow......i really dunno.... so many things crossing my mind right now, i really doubt she is cheating on me... we have never in 4 years been in this kind of situation... its kinda hard to say what the deal is.. i think we just need some space to let things cool down and if it doesnt work out then we go our seperate ways, but if she is cheating i feel so hurt because i have NEVER talked to another girl without her permision as far as anything goes.. sure as friends but i would never even put a question like that in her mind.....
Well, your a genuine guy. Not too many of those, and I beg you not to change if she did cheat on you. Just move on and dont take it out on a new girl. Not all of us cheat. I promise. :)

Hopefully, she didn't though, and you do just need some space. gl buddy keep us updated

[SpReSsA]

show up to the door with flowers and talk to her...

[DA_LsVtAk]

Well, your a genuine guy. Not too many of those, and I beg you not to change if she did cheat on you. Just move on and dont take it out on a new girl. Not all of us cheat. I promise. :)

Hopefully, she didn't though, and you do just need some space. gl buddy keep us updated



yeha, just am afraid i wont be as happy as i was with her... i mean at work i think about her all the time.... on the plane trip here i couldnt stop thinking about her, and now im just worried bout our relationship going sour after all this time..... ive been out of the dating game too long so im sure i wont get another GF for a while...... haha

[Do0k1E]

Man, I really feel for you man, I hope everything works out for you seriously, let us know what ends up happening.

[Cloud Nine]

keeping a long distance relationship is tough...gl :thumb:

[jeR-]

Well, your a genuine guy. Not too many of those, and I beg you not to change if she did cheat on you. Just move on and dont take it out on a new girl. Not all of us cheat. I promise. :)



fucking :wrd:

it happened to me with a relationship that i just got out of that i was in for a year. I was cheated on and had games played on me before, and I took it out on the new girl... My trust hasn't been as strong as it has been in the past with other girls. I wish i could honestly take it all back and start over fresh. I truly loved the girl, but it ended in such a bad way that it fucking kills me inside to think about her. And if she has cheated on you, let it go, move on with your life. If you do join the Air Force, you'll have plenty of chances to meet other people.

Just don't forget not to take that stuff out on new girls, trust me, I know what happens when you do.

[DA_LsVtAk]

yeah.... i dunno im kinda tired of the drama... my bro wants me to ditch her and start the recovery process now, get her out of my mind.. but the less time i have here the more i want things to work out....

[jeR-]

yeah.... i dunno im kinda tired of the drama... my bro wants me to ditch her and start the recovery process now, get her out of my mind.. but the less time i have here the more i want things to work out....
dude, i'm in the same situation. me and my gf just broke up about a week ago, and I want to work things out with her, make her know that I still love her and whatnot. But, the sooner you start going out with new girls and whatnot, the sooner you'll get over her. Think of the relationship without any regrets, it's not a total waste if you end it now. You probably had some really good times and you've learned from each other. So, just get the girl outta your head, and spend time with family/friends you have here in houston, i'm guessing that's where you are. good luck bro.

[Mach1Kid]

GIRLS! so confusing i tell ya. akira man, just give it some time. hopefully she'll have a good explanation. Better things come your way man. good luck bro.

[DA_LsVtAk]

true, well right now im still in wichita falls. ill be back in H town on sat.. hopefully i can get some weekend drinkin and get started on the getting back to normal.... but every spare moment i get to myself i just feel like yelling out "FUCK!!!, GOD DAMNIT!!!" im goin to the gym tomorrow, i need to hit the bag....

[jeR-]

true, well right now im still in wichita falls. ill be back in H town on sat.. hopefully i can get some weekend drinkin and get started on the getting back to normal.... but every spare moment i get to myself i just feel like yelling out "FUCK!!!, GOD DAMNIT!!!" im goin to the gym tomorrow, i need to hit the bag....
fucking yell that shit out, bro.


i do it, feels great.

[FbodTrek]

Dude, do NOT leave Kansas without talking to ehr...miss work if you have to...do SOMTHING...but don't let it end like that.... you have to REALLLY try. Kidnap her coming out of work adn take her to dinner...be perfectly blunt about EVERYTHING...marriage, your feelings about how she's acting, all of it. If you really, truely love her, you'll bend over backwards to figure things out. I don't know either of you obviously...so ic an't predict what's been going on. I will say this though- "Love only happens once" Once you are really in love, things will never be the same again dude. You'll sacrifice EVERYTHING trying to work it out. If in the end she doesn't reciprocate...then it was one sided. I sincerely hope you get things straight. I know how terrified you feel right now, that feeling in the pit of your stomach adn back. You can't ignore it. Don't psycho spam her with phone calls, just show up, grab her hand and ask her exactly what you want. do NOT let go of her becasue she had a taste of party life (unless she really DID cheat on you, in which case jsut walk away, head high...and go get stoned )

[phast]

I don't think he's in Kansas. Wichita Falls is in north Texas. It's the town I was born in. God it's boring there.

[JeffTSi924]

wrd, Wichita Falls, TX.


Live and learn. At least you're young

[Dorian]

and she goes is this alex? Seriously there is something wrong right there.

I am with everyone else in this thread.


If you do join the Air Force you will get over her even quicker....

[the Asshats]

Maybe she is just freaked out that you're joining the air force. You're gonna be gone for a long time, and I'm sure she's heard all the bad stories of airmen cheating on their gf's/wives. Before my husband left for BMT, we had already decided we were getting married. But I still worried he'd fall for someone else. Maybe she's trying to get over you cold shoulder because she's scared of getting hurt?..?

I don't know, she fucked up big though, but with her bro in the hospital, and you leaving for the AF, I'm sure she's really confused ight now. Just be realy persistent and don't let her go if you really love her. Show her you aren't going anywhere!:)

[Retali8]

Maybe she is just freaked out that you're joining the air force. You're gonna be gone for a long time, and I'm sure she's heard all the bad stories of airmen cheating on their gf's/wives. Before my husband left for BMT, we had already decided we were getting married. But I still worried he'd fall for someone else. Maybe she's trying to get over you cold shoulder because she's scared of getting hurt?..?

I don't know, she fucked up big though, but with her bro in the hospital, and you leaving for the AF, I'm sure she's really confused ight now. Just be realy persistent and don't let her go if you really love her. Show her you aren't going anywhere!:)you know that some of the nicest things I've heard from you lol. I like that...especially since your talking from experience. :)

[SAR05]

yeha, just am afraid i wont be as happy as i was with her... i mean at work i think about her all the time.... on the plane trip here i couldnt stop thinking about her, and now im just worried bout our relationship going sour after all this time..... ive been out of the dating game too long so im sure i wont get another GF for a while...... haha
Well not ALL realtionships are like that after 4 years. I wouldn't expect that again, only because this was a long distance one towards the end. Unless you find another girl that lives far away expect to get annoyed and NOT think about her all day after a couple years. :)

[NursingStudent2]

talk to her before you leave and see what's going on.

[DA_LsVtAk]

Dude, do NOT leave Kansas without talking to ehr...miss work if you have to...do SOMTHING...but don't let it end like that.... you have to REALLLY try. Kidnap her coming out of work adn take her to dinner...be perfectly blunt about EVERYTHING...marriage, your feelings about how she's acting, all of it. If you really, truely love her, you'll bend over backwards to figure things out. I don't know either of you obviously...so ic an't predict what's been going on. I will say this though- "Love only happens once" Once you are really in love, things will never be the same again dude. You'll sacrifice EVERYTHING trying to work it out. If in the end she doesn't reciprocate...then it was one sided. I sincerely hope you get things straight. I know how terrified you feel right now, that feeling in the pit of your stomach adn back. You can't ignore it. Don't psycho spam her with phone calls, just show up, grab her hand and ask her exactly what you want. do NOT let go of her becasue she had a taste of party life (unless she really DID cheat on you, in which case jsut walk away, head high...and go get stoned )


yeah , im in texas... i dunno i love comming here 2-3 times out of the year to get away from stress n stuff... although its boring i like sitting out in the middle of nowhere to sit and think... ive prob done that everynight this week... im goingto say my intentions tonight... im ready to give this a shot... hopefully things work out.....


Maybe she is just freaked out that you're joining the air force. You're gonna be gone for a long time, and I'm sure she's heard all the bad stories of airmen cheating on their gf's/wives. Before my husband left for BMT, we had already decided we were getting married. But I still worried he'd fall for someone else. Maybe she's trying to get over you cold shoulder because she's scared of getting hurt?..?

I don't know, she fucked up big though, but with her bro in the hospital, and you leaving for the AF, I'm sure she's really confused ight now. Just be realy persistent and don't let her go if you really love her. Show her you aren't going anywhere!:)


yeah, i was thinking that as well.... the only reason why i think her dad is saying yes to me is because im prior military (my dad was a master seargent) and her dad is as well... i was in rotc and he knows i know where i want to go in life... i know shes confused but yeah... well see im, kinda confused as well....

[Club Sauce]

Hopefully things work out for you tonite! Keep us posted.

[kthxbai]

you really got to find out what the deal is. if you just let it go like this, it will stay with you a long ass time. good luck man.

[Limeade]

So howd it go?

[DA_LsVtAk]

So howd it go?


we ended it..... i just cant do it anymore ... i love her, but things are just too complicated now.. so on mutual terms we kinda decided it would be good to stop dating untill i came back up perminantly for tech school and give it another shot... hopefully it will work out, but im no longer on a leash and can try out other relationships... sweet.... and she wasnt cheating on me, thank god

[Club Sauce]

well atleast theres still hope, and now you have freedom down here.

[DA_LsVtAk]

well atleast theres still hope, and now you have freedom down here.



yeah, thanks for all the support guys... i get to start over again... well see how things go, shit is still kinda dificult though, with time hopefully things will get better

[ToyHatch]

^^ time heals all wounds

[drmonkey]

Just go out with friends and stuff, it will help...I started going to the car meets and met all kinds of people...now I know a lot of people off the board and am good friends with a few...things will work themselves out, get out and meet people...you never know who you will meet.

[Urban Communications]

sorry about that

[Limeade]

So she wasn't cheating, thats cool, that can fuck with a guys head. But what was it? Was there any real reason, or did you all just grow apart?

[MoToHeAd125]

Bitches lie:stare:

[DA_LsVtAk]

So she wasn't cheating, thats cool, that can fuck with a guys head. But what was it? Was there any real reason, or did you all just grow apart?



we just thought it was too much of a hassel to try and keep a dying relationship going and to wait untill i got back for good.... it sucks, i was about to ask this girl to marry me and im actually leaving a single man... meh... shit happens... im going over there tonight so we can chat, but for now were on another break untill after basic and im in tech school

[DA_LsVtAk]

http://myspace-317.vo.llnwd.net/00322/71/30/322900317_l.jpg

heres a pic for u guys to associate faces with... this is my babe, heather... well not so much anymore lol

[Leo]

sweet rack

[1990hatch]

sweet rack
:roflmao: :roflmao:

[_relapsd.]

dont say 4 years down the drain, dude.
lesson learned.

[DA_LsVtAk]

dont say 4 years down the drain, dude.
lesson learned.


true, a good lesson i suppose... i gotta get my A game in check... heh, and she does have an awesome rack... i already miss it :bawling:

[misterfutureboy]

damn she has that naughty girl look. Man get well soon because I know you gotta be a little sick right now.

[Gooback]

mmm i dint read the whole thread.. (too lazy)

but if you still have the problem posted.. i think she is acting a little imature... i mean at least give you a reason..

shes cute from the pic but best thing .. move on..

seems like she didnt appreciate what you did for her...


:wrd: Never say it was a waste of time, you know inside its not true. Just remember the good and never forget the bad. It seems all to common when a guy is completely in love with a woman and gives them everything they could possibly want they will do something to fuck it up horribly then wonder why things are never the same and why you have changed. She took what you did for her for granted and you should see this. Story of my life :rolleyes: Just realise that next time you will know not to let another woman do the same to you. If you give her your all and show her your true feelings and she walks over you then show the show her the door, things will never be the same. I wont lie and say things will get better, becuase for a good while they wont. You never forget what happens when you really cared for someone, and you might not ever be able to let it go, always wondering why..... just learn from it and go on about your way. Keep your head up man.

Best of luck.

[estebones]

wow

Thumbs up for taking this much better than 90% of the males here would have taken it.

[phast]

Life's a mother fkn' roller coaster.

[Sweet_RSX]

Life's a mother fkn' roller coaster.

:wrd:

[DA_LsVtAk]

:wrd: Never say it was a waste of time, you know inside its not true. Just remember the good and never forget the bad. It seems all to common when a guy is completely in love with a woman and gives them everything they could possibly want they will do something to fuck it up horribly then wonder why things are never the same and why you have changed. She took what you did for her for granted and you should see this. Story of my life :rolleyes: Just realise that next time you will know not to let another woman do the same to you. If you give her your all and show her your true feelings and she walks over you then show the show her the door, things will never be the same. I wont lie and say things will get better, becuase for a good while they wont. You never forget what happens when you really cared for someone, and you might not ever be able to let it go, always wondering why..... just learn from it and go on about your way. Keep your head up man.

Best of luck.


yeah i know how it goess... well now i do.... i dunno, i left here (houston) to show her my love and instead im leaving a single man.... it fucking sucks... i wish things would have turned out better but i cant get this sick feeling out of my stomach... like everytime i look at her picture i feel like kicking myself for not trying something that would have fixed this... i know there will never be another like her, mainly because she was someone very special to me, but im not looking for a replacment, and it would be a lie if i said i wouldnt take her back right now... but this physical barrier between us is just gods way of telling me i need to move on i guess.... thanks for the support guys, i really and truely mean it... but im back in houston now and hopefully i can get things out of my head for a little while, but yeah friends are calling me to go drink with them to start things fresh so ill catch yall later

-alex

[joshoowa]

man girls that age are never prepared for marraige sorry to say that... but thats from my personal experience through myself and friends.

dude also how the hell could she not call u for 3-4days straight, and not pick up when u call on ur cell. u dont live in houston!!! its not like u guys can meet up the next day or whenever u have to fking fly down..in my past when my previous bitch did that she wasnt "cheating" like how u stated, but she was hella getting friendly with some dirty ass nga. then next thing i know shes fucking him right after we break up.

and whats the deal with the bro in the hospital you're gf&bf, family bonds should of been established long time ago. my current gf can tell me everything, so thats lame reason...come on a freaking phone call can last 10 secs. she could of easily called u and said "hey babe my bros in the hospital so i wont be able ot talk to u for awhile since the hospital wont allow us to use cell phones".

sorry but something isnt right...doesnt matter that she found out that u asked her rents for her hand in marrage already... like how u said u've alreayd discusses marraige so its not somethign new...

im just glad u guys broke it off...


all i gotta say is.... hit the gym up get swoll and get hoes

[Bad Shark]

cliffs* i fly 400 miles to see my GF and beg to get 10 days off work, i get the time off and see her and she is ignoring me... no clue what do to do and shit is off the fucking chain,her friends dont even know whats up with her...*
don't think of it as down the drain, think of it as the educational process... preparing you for something better soon.

but yeah man, if she ain't sleepin with you... she ain't sleepin alone...

cut your emotional losses and move on.